You’ve Tried Everything—Now Let’s Look Deeper

What we often call “behavior” is rarely just about behavior. Meltdowns, defiance, aggression, withdrawal, or control-seeking are usually signs of a nervous system that feels unsafe, overwhelmed, or out of sync.

 

I support children whose behaviors may feel confusing, disruptive, or emotionally intense—but who are often trying to communicate something their body or words can’t yet express.

 

This includes children who:

• Have frequent outbursts, aggression, or screaming

• Show extreme control-seeking or resistance to change

• Seem withdrawn, unreachable, or highly avoidant

• Have been labeled “defiant,” “strong-willed,” “oppositional,” or “too sensitive”

• Are easily flooded by emotion or sensory input

 

Rather than trying to suppress or manage these responses, I look underneath: to reflexes, movement patterns, sensory regulation, and relationship safety. Often, the behavior is a strategy—not a problem.

 

This approach gently supports:

• Co-regulation through rhythm, breath, and presence

• Integration of early patterns that influence reactivity

• Emotional resilience without forcing verbal processing

• Helping parents understand and attune to what’s really happening underneath the surface

• Supporting nervous system safety as the foundation for change

 

When we stop trying to “fix the behavior,” we create space to understand what’s driving it—and to meet the child in the place they most need support.